What if
all it takes to turn a bad student into a successful one is a few good
blurbs to memorize and less than a handful of habits to do for less
than 5 minutes each day?
Impossible?
Otherwise, we will all master good writing, have great communication skills and learn a new foreign language every 30 days!!??
Strangely enough, if you search on google, there is someone who is selling a product on mastering a new foreign language in 10 days. And many other products on writing and speaking in rapid time.
Are these products all bogus?
Upon
some research, they really are not. They all relied on some
simplified method of the learning process. For eg, The
one on learning a foreign language relies on first learning to speak and listen
to the 200 words and phrases most commonly used in our daily life. Then practice speaking and listening these 200 words/phrases repeatedly with the
local speakers so that u can used them in daily conversation. Then you will
naturally add the other less commonly used words, outside the 200, when u communicate more as you advance
higher up.
Then
comes the reading and writing skills.
This
proposed method does make sense as 80 % of the phrases we used in our daily lives encompassed those
200 most commonly used phrases. You can
live and communicate in a foreign country on those 200 phrases alone!
So
yes! It is all about Structuring the
Learning Process. And in a Simplified manner.
The
Foreign language product does work, and similarly, a Simplified System to teach
Children Success and Good Morals could also work equally well.
And yes!
Just a few good blurbs a day and a handful of exercises 5 minutes each!
In our earlier blog, “Educating Morals and Ethics is about Simplicity -Yes!
Michael Jordan can truly fly!”, it was stated that failure of not
eradicating evilness and achieving
higher moral standards in society are primarily due to the lack of Simplicity in education.
Below is a brief extract and summary:
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One may wonder why Immorality or evilness still existed after thousands of years of education, religion and ethics books on the shelves.
Especially when the moral texts come in all kinds of shapes and sizes, with minuscule print and fonts, thousands of pages of jargon that need complicated interpretation. In a ADD world, kids dont even remember the content of their favorite tv shows after a few days. And we want them to remember what certain moral or ethic book say on pg1?
Why?
Simple = easily Understood, easily Memorized, and easily Convincing.
Ask any kids and they will answer “just do it” or “impossible is nothing” .
You see, smart marketers and copywriters in ad agencies understand these hidden secrets ages ago- its all about Simplicity when sending a strong message. No need for blurbs of jargon.
Its all about Simplicity that is deeply, easily Convincing.
Take "Love thy neighbors"
And easily, naturally remembered without effort.
So below is my proposed list of the most important Universal Blurbs for Moral/Ethic Education-- to be repeated from time to time since
Education on Morals is essentially " Repetition of Simplicity."
Simple = easily Understood, easily Memorized, and easily Convincing.
And easily, naturally remembered without effort.
So below is my proposed list of the most important Universal Blurbs for Moral/Ethic Education-- to be repeated from time to time since
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End of Extract
To create Success
and High Morals in schools, a student
needs both Simplified Teaching and
Exercise.
The
Teaching has to be Simplified
– so simple that it becomes a blurb or one sentence.
And
the Exercise must also be simplified so
that it becomes a daily Habit, easily done on the fly, that reinforces the
simplified Teaching(blurb)
According to the book “How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character”, author Paul Tough did a lot of research through successful charter schools such as KIPP and found that
All Successful
students have 4 Selfhelp elements= Discipline, Persistence (a certain level of Grit
as defined by Paul Tough), Social Agility(knowing how to ask for help), and inert Optimism to overcome any
obstacles.
These Selfhelp Ingredients are considered important,
as these are the qualities that make a student help themselves regardless of
obstacles they faced. We need a system
that students empowers themselves forward, automatically with enthusiasm, not
one that requires constant spoon
feeding and monitoring.
We need a
Simplified System that teaches Morals and Good Character for Success.
The failure of
todays educational system, or any
educational system in the last 6000 yrs of history, is not being able to
Simplify- in both Teaching and Exercise(Exercise is reinforcement of the
teaching)
So is there
any System out there that not just educates Success but also concurrently
teaches Morals that eradicates evilness?
And at the same
time is Simplified in both Teaching and Practice?
And could be easily
mastered by students in short time frames of say 60 days, much like a portable
summer camp/class?
We at idu did extensive research on this topic. In this article, we would like to present
and propose a Complete Simplified System for Educating Success and
Good Morals- hopefully to be implementable easily and immediately
in any high school system. And the best part of it - it wont cost a dime!
And could transform
any student in as short as 60 days!
Impossible? Incredible? Overly Ambitious?
Not at all.
Lets us explain.
The research we
started months ago centered on why people do wrong or evil things.
In other words,
what are the Primary or Key emotions a person goes through for him to
commit the wrong.
Interestingly
enough, we realized afterwards that learning to overcome these same emotions
are also responsible for a Student’s Success in school and Life.
There are
essentially 9 Primary Emotions that cause a Person to trigger/commit a wrong or
allow a wrong to happen.
They are Fear,
Guilt, Greed, Exclusivity(self-importance), Jealousy, Anger, Lack of Courage,
Indifference, Deviousness.
There are also a
list of other secondary emotions such as sadness or being overly sensitive, but
these are secondary emotions that are usually not strong enough to cause a
person to do evil. However, they could
eventually lead to a Primary emotion for a person to commit evil. An eg. is an
overdose of sadness that could lead to anger.
(for those interested in this research, the Secondary emotions are
listed at the end of this blog as Appendix)
For this article,
we will just focus on the Primary Emotional Triggers, on
their –
a. Cause
- One Blurb- The Teaching of one
Simplified Blurb as Solution to fixing the Cause, or educate the student
in one Simplified Sentence so they will easily understand, be convinced
and remember not to commit the wrong
c. One Simplified
Exercise- How we are going to further
engrain the Simplified Blurb in the child’s memory, awareness and warning
alertness with a Simplified Exercise that
hopefully becomes Habit.
Lets examine each
Primary Emotion together with their answers.
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1a. Fear – fear of
loss, fear of not having, fear of not winnng/gaining, fear of safety, fear of punishment.
The Trigger to commit wrong comes from panicking due to being
threatened, feeling insecure, for the sake of survival, to prevent oneself from
being blamed or to protect oneself or love ones such as friends and family.
1b. One sentence corrective blurb –
“to uphold principles and do the right things all the time” or
“being unafraid of
loss/consequence and doing the right things regardless, picking proper
corrective actions”
1c. The One
Exercise - facing short, challenging deadlines in projects
This Exercise helps
a student face fear, stay calm/detached, practice perseverance and seek help
quickly and seek proper corrective actions immediately.
2a. Guilt- guilt of not doing enough, of not having enough, of missing
an opportunity or having missed a previous opportunity, of not returning a
favor, or doing a favor based on loyalty- a problem of responsibility on affiliation to family or 3rd party.
The trigger to commit wrong comes from guilt of being blamed, having
been blamed before, or owing someone a favor or promise and must return a
favor, or guilt from loyalty of not following wrongful orders from a higher
authority such as employers, parents, friends. etc
2b. So whats the one sentence or blurb to educate this one?
“Doing the right things all the time regardless of pressures, favors
owed-- negotiating your way out of it”
2c. Exercise = learn to negotiate out of any situation or favor owed,
finding alternative and compromise.
This exercise allows the student to practice negotiation/compromise,
facing and handling guilt, not bowing to pressure while sticking to the Right
path.
3a. Greed – this one is obvious in our daily lives. Greed due to money,
fame, power, exclusivity (feeling self important when winning), or passion(hobby)
b. One sentence corrective blurb- to win fair and square, the evolved
way
OR “ to be above ALL things
vain, as happiness is about sharing your success, helping others succeed”
- Exercise – to Serve all People, to give your 100% best effort while taking zero credit for it, giving full credit away to others, regardless if these people are inferior/superior, or people u like/dislike.
The Exercise is to practice servitude to all people, especially those
that are less fortunate or less of, for
no expectation of any return.
This exercise is also needed to
implement a “to be above all things vain” attitude, and to instill a service
attitude, servicing those that are inferior/better off or like/dislike with the
same attitude of respect, just like a student towards a leader/teacher. The person must serve with all his efforts and take ZERO credit for it and give full credit to others- this is to instill the Sharing and Helping others succeed notion without taking the credit(which is what's vain).
4a. Exclusivity –
the urge to be famous, respected and admired, to feel unique and special, urge
to win at all cost, break any rules, mostly due to a strong insecure inferior
complex.
b. One sentence corrective blurb- “to win fair and square- the evolved
way”
OR “ to be above ALL things vain
, as happiness is about being selfless, sharing your success, helping others succeed
OR "what is greater than success is helping others succeed"
c. Exercise- same as 3c
5a. Jealousy-
jealous of wealth, fame,success but usually love in relationship.
very similar
comments to 3 and 4.
b.One sentence corrective blurb
“ to be above ALL things vain(in this case, wasteful self-centered emotions),
as happiness is about being selfless, sharing your success/happiness, helping others succeed”
OR "one should not waste energy on negative things, but focus it on the positives"
And
“Loving Everyone as Friends and Family –
Wishing Everyone the Best
"Love is a selfless energy"
"Love is a selfless energy"
c.Exercise- same as
3c
6a. Anger – due to
being hurt in pride, ego, dignity, or being hurt physically, financially.
Or anger due to a
strong sense of righteousness
b.One sentence
corrective blurb
“the evolved is
above ridiculing and being ridiculed”
and
“acting imminently and properly to fight back
the wrong (but doing it the right way, and not become like them)” ==this one is for the anger out of strong sense
of righteousness
- Exercise- practice debates or sales
mocks to difficult people or working with difficult big teams
This exercise
teaches the student to be above ridicules, practice tact and tone management to
defuse situations, having multitude of options to eliminate evil, to practice anger
management, working in big teams among a variety of difficult people.
7a. Lack of
courage- feeling timid, moving along peer pressure, consensus, or just being a
natural introvert, or lack communication deficiency, being shy to do the right
thing
b. One sentence blurb
= “practice doing the uncomfortable(or uneasy), and make it habit”
and
“action over
inaction=u matter”
c Exercise
–coldcalling on strangers as in sales/marketing
This one is easy to
explain. Practice to overcome until it
is habit.
8a. Indifference –
just feeling complacent, lazy, lack of empathy to motivate oneself to do the
right thing, to prevent wrong from happening, feeling uncomfortable and
indecisive on doing the right thing.
b. Blurb- same as
7b
c. Exercise- same
as 7c
9a. Deviousness-
doing wrong things just to be entertained, feeling bored. See these in kids all
the times.
b. one way is to educate "True Greatness comes from bettering others, not battering"
OR "True Greatness comes from doing only the Positives, never negatives"
The best way to fix this one is to educate “Happiness”. – Happiness is essentially about sharing you with others, your passion, your ideals, your energy.
OR "True Greatness comes from doing only the Positives, never negatives"
The best way to fix this one is to educate “Happiness”. – Happiness is essentially about sharing you with others, your passion, your ideals, your energy.
But it starts with a “positive YOU- doing
only the positives.”
Then come the
possible “sharing your passions and loving everyone as family”
c.Exercise- to do
zero wrong each day and to help at least one person each day
If done wrong by
accident, must correct the wrong on the same day.
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This is our first
ambitious attempt in coming up with the above Template Solution. Obviously, it is open to debates. We welcome
any of your comments, thinking, improvements, and criticisms.
It is challenging to come out with the One Blurb, One Exercise Approach, since obviously some of these answers require more than such simplicity. But through some serious analysis, the one blurb and one Exercise we choose for each Emotion, do cover a lot of grounds in width and depth, overlapping a good many areas.
We believe that by
simply following the One Blurb, One Exercise formula, one could
teach a student good morals in as short as 60 days.
But also Success!
Interestingly, when
you look at our Exercises we recommended, it looks like some of them kind of falls under some
kind of sales and marketing training menu!
Important
Disclaimer : we at idu are not affiliated with and has NO relationship with
any sales and marketing company, mlm company, or any company in the industry selling any
products.
We are a web2.0 site offering self help advice for free.
We are not here
writing this blog to pump MLM or Sales and Marketing Classes.
In one of our
previous blog,
“Is Sales and
Marketing the Ultimate Savior to our Education System?”
we talked about the importance of having a Sales and Marketing
Curriculum in High School. Below is extract Summary-
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So why a curriculum on sales and marketing? Why would this little cold calling class on entrepreneurship be the Ultimate Savior for high iqs, high grades, and high emotional iqs?
First to succeed in Life, one needs the Proper Attitude.
The Proper attitude leads to a proper outlook on Life, and creates the Proper Discipline.
In sales and marketing, the most important moto is
" by Serving the customer FIRST and RIGHT, u serve yourself best”
" by Serving the customer FIRST and RIGHT, u serve yourself best”
And that "the Customer is Always Right"
Only when we study marketing classes can we learn to BETTER and IMPROVE others.
By improving others, we improve ourselves.
Very much in line with = by Serving the customer FIRST and RIGHT, u serve yourself best”
In other words “Putting Others First” , equates similarly to how u achieve success in Life.
Furthermore,
When u serve and place your customers first, and understand their needs,
selling your creation and passion to your customers,
u have mastered the concept of Happiness of helping others through your passion-
where u place every customer first, doing your best for everyone , including a total stranger.
When u serve and place your customers first, and understand their needs,
selling your creation and passion to your customers,
u have mastered the concept of Happiness of helping others through your passion-
where u place every customer first, doing your best for everyone , including a total stranger.
In fact, “ Success in marketing your business is similar to achieving happiness in life.”
In other words, when u study marketing, u are really studying happiness.
Lets stop and reflect for a while what are educators trying infuse into students. Basically we want to infuse
1. Success skills = Lifeskills (selfhelp plus social skills plus strong communication skills)
and
2. Good Morals
Teaching Sales and Marketing the proper way covers the above 2 grounds.
Sales and marketing already covers a wide range of Lifeskills, Social Skills and Communication Life Skills -such as self confidence, presentation of strengths,understanding needs, being persuasive and teaches excellent advertising copy writing skills( thus understanding customer needs and their sensitivity).
All of these are of paramount importance and powerful not only for business skills but life skills for career advancement, job hunt skills like interviews, writing resumes and cover letters.
The Sales and Marketing genre could be further expanded into
a. Entrepreneurship, Management skills and Teamwork skills
b. Basic and Advance Life Skills ( Communication skills)
And most important of all, Sales and Marketing teaches Good Morals with
Proper etiquette = politeness, respect, tolerance, acceptance, full consideration of our speech/action to all others at all times
Proper Culture =thinking and acting positive, positive action, positive criticism- no criticism out of mockery or insult or any negatives – only out of positive intention to help/improve others (which mean we should only criticize if one has the intention to help /improve), no procrastination of action, helping others to help themselves, constantly improve ourselves to help others, proper etiquette and doing the right things at all times.
In short, studying sales and marketing creates the Matured, Responsible Person
And most importantly, It provides the needed Selfhelp skills, the highly needed GRIT, discipline and proper emotional management mix such as the following:-
Take positive action over complacency.
Choose action instead of procrastination.
Do the right things at all times without hesitation.
Help others (help customers) at a moment notice!
Help others help themselves.
Empower ourselves by empowering others.
And equally important, it teaches persistence and perseverance such as-
“Never a No, Always Getting that Yes”
This one blurb covers the most important aspects of lifeskills which are: being persuasive, being convincing, tactful, winning friends and influence, dazzling the crowd, and persistence in getting to a yes thru superb communication and people skills.
This only blurb also cover friend-making skills like breaking the ice, being super popular, being always helpful.
In short, a Sales and Marketing Curriculum in High School promotes areas that our current High School System so desperately lacks –strong Writing skills, strong communication skills,strong people skills, good habits like Action over inaction/procrastination,and Proper Etiquette.
===End
of Extract===
And here in this
article, we would take one bold step further
and argue that not only does a high school student age 13-18 badly needs
a sales and marketing Curriculum, he needs a MLM (multi level Marketing )
curriculum.
Why?
MLM went beyond
Sales/Marketing and teaches Servitude and Leadership qualities. One cannot be a successful MLM sales person
if one doesn’t help other salespeople under him succeed.
It is
important to educate Success as "Achieving Success AND Helping Others Succeed"
In todays society,
we see many people excited and hungry
for success, especially entrepreneur successes.
But somehow the
attitude of humility and servitude come missing or misplaced from Success.
The attitude to
Serve, to Teach should be coupled and strongly tied in to any curriculum of
Success. For these makes good
Leadership qualities as well.
The Teach and
Servitude elements are missing in a normal sales and marketing class. The
Philanthropic charity element of helping others succeed is missing.
With MLM, it imposes that both the Teaching and the Servitude Spirit as Necessities for Success.
Having said all
that, we can confidently say revamping our current school system will not cost
a penny.
Why?
The Global MLM
companies will all be happy and excited to come in to high schools to educate
the kids on their MLM programs in exchange for recruitment, career and branding
opportunities.
Sure , we heard
a lot of scams and abuses in MLM, but
what if it is done the right, professional, ethical way?
Surely, we have
ethical professional multinational companies that is MLM based, that are
enjoying tremendous growth in members
and salespeople year after year like Amway, Nuskin etc
So what are we
waiting for ?
This article aims
to tackle the Core of the problem, the Primary Triggers.
In future articles, we will see deviations of
the above techniques on different types of people, mainly type A, B, C- the
leaders, followers, slackers and among different personalities, such as
different traits among introverts and extroverts.
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Appendix -
Secondary Emotions that can lead to a Primary
Trigger
11
Secondaries that can possibly
|
|
lead
to Primary Triggers
|
Counter
Habits to the 11 secondaries
|
Overly
happy-->can lead to greed,
exclusivity
|
Humility
|
Sadness
can lead to anger, jealousy, indifference, guilt
|
optimistic,
always positive, doing ur best
|
Frustration
can lead to fear, greed , exclusivity, anger
|
never
give up, persistence
|
Overly
tensed can lead to - fear, anger
|
relax,
detached at all times
|
Overly
sensitive can lead to jealousy,
anger, fear
|
make
slower decision, delay actions, clear head
|
Overly
reactive can lead to anger
|
extracting oneself
immed out of situations, make logical decisions only after detaching
|
spontaneous,implusive
behavior due to peer pressure can
lead to greed, exclusivity, anger
|
Detach oneself from peer group
and behavior before logical decisions.
|
Constant
rulebreaker can lead to exclusivity
|
Remembering
to be “above it all” , being evolved.
|
Constant
insecure, inferior complex can lead to fear, guilt, anger
|
Same as
above
|
Constantly
controlling can lead to fear, exclusivity
|
To delegate effectively, to
trust.
|
Constant
attention to economic necessity, survival can lead to fear
|
to seek
help in advance, to plan ahead
|
Constant
protectiveness of family and friends, coworkers can lead to fear, guilt
|
eliminate
conflicts of interest scenarios way ahead of time
|
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