Most annoying.
Or most celebrated?
I could never forget those chatterboxes in my secondary school days who chatted gibberish all day, non stop to almost anyone.
Part of me found it really annoying. Part of me truly envied them.
I mean who wont?
Being able to chat with anyone on anything at any spur of a moment.
Even to a stranger.
That is a skill one could only dream of as a kid.
Being able to make friends easily and talk spontaneously with anyone you fancy.
A few days after we published
"Teaching Success in 60 days ??! Part 3 : Simplify App for each of 15 Traits"
on November 1st 2021, an interesting discovery happened.
I came across this app ad promoting the class:
" How to Talk with Anyone" that i wished i would come across a few days earlier.
And thus this article.
"How to Talk with Anyone"
This seems to be a much more appealing theme or class to kids and adults of all ages than achieving Success.
But does it also cover the whole spectrum of self help that the 15 Traits of Success clearly does.
After some thoughtful analysis, it interestingly does cover all 15 Traits.
We will go through each of same 15 Traits related to "How to talk with Anyone" in this article
But first, let's frame the context.
Let's assume you are in a public place, such as a restaurant, and you want to talk with a stranger you see
sitting alone across some tables away.
And we will give ourselves 2 chances to succeed.
One perhaps to break the ice and if failed, the second attempt to strike a meaningful conversation.
So what do we break the ice with- what question is effective for that?
There are tons of these research out there but after narrowing down the sincere ones, we think the following approach works best.
The question goes like this:
"I am sorry to interrupt, are you a dentist ?
Ahh..... you are not ? Sorry i guessed wrong. You sure look like one. I just read a "16 Personality Matrix" article so i am practicing the concept, guessing people's occupation based on Personality and appearance. Ha! I guess I have not mastered it yet. There is another related article that teaches how to figure out a stranger's personality in a matter of seconds.by looking at how one walks, talks, moves etc. It is truly an amazing article.. So anyway, what do you do for a living?"
Sound corny or insincere? Not one bit.
We first published "How to Work with ANYONE- distinguishing Personality Types in minutes!" in 2019.
So for those interested in this very exciting topic that allows you to easily strike a casual conversation with anyone, do read the article.
We also published "Personality Profiles- the Super Simplified approach to Myers Briggs, "Perfect Team Part 3" in 2018.
For those interested in Myers Briggs 16 Personality Matrix in details, there are tons of material on the web on this.
Guessing occupation is an interesting way to strike a conversation. If you strike a chord, and they are in the mood, go on to explain the intricacy of the personality article.
If you get.a quick cold response, you quickly shy away, wait 20 minutes, and get ready for round two - the second attempt.
And the best second attempt without getting some nasty stares is to perhaps invite them to read the article "How to Work with ANYONE- distinguishing Personality Types in minutes! " via email by presenting them an invite card with a catchy irresistible slogan "How to Talk with Anyone instantly". Say something like "Try it! i think you will like it"
The above is our thinking on the 2 attempts. But i am sure there are many other equally effective 2 attempts
and thus this article- to structure a class easily taught that centered on the 2 attempts, that actually cover the grounds of the 15 traits of Success.
Lets go through the 15 Traits here on how each Trait relates to "How to talk with Anyone".
15 Success Trait Groups
1. Left Brain - SOLID REASONING
Yes, one must be logical and analytical to come up with good techniques on to break the ice and keep the conversation flowing.
2. Right Brain=Imagination, Creativity
NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE
One needs creativity and imagination to come up with new ideas for different personalities.
3.Productivity= Extreme Focus
One needs extreme focus to execute the encounter for the window of opportunity is short .
4. Passion = ENJOY THE PROCESS-MAKE IT FUN
Yes it is fun meeting new people, so enjoy the process, be passionate to test out different approaches and discover everything about the other.
5. Excel = CONSTANTLY IMPROVING
One should strive to continue improve on your technique - better ways, better approaches.
Be accountable to your self - practice everyday, meet one new person each day, never be absent.
7. committed=NEVER GIVE UP --
Never give up after the first cold response. Keep trying
8. Versatile = RESILIENT
Be versatile after a cold first attempt- keep your thinking engine revving even faster upon failure, and more motivated- zero slack or let down
9. modest== CAUTIOUS/NEVER COMPLACENT
Never be arrogant or complacent if the first attempt is successful. Keep the conversation going. Never assume a relationship is already solid in the pockets
always be warm, nice and listen well. Offer good suggestions and ideas to assure long term relationships.
11. Malleable with Everyone=EVERYONE AS FAMILY
Get to know the other person fully, all the little details.
Understand everything about them, get to know their personality and strike a rapport
12. Big hearted-
WISH THE BEST OF OTHERS AT ALL TIMES
Help them in any way possible. Call upon your network
This goes miles beyond any meaningful conversation
Dont be nervous, have fun, stay calm at all times, keep conversation flowing smoothly
15. Courage & being Assertive=BE ASSERTIVE
Be bold, be assertive at the right moment.
If rejected first round, stay bold and assertive on the second attempt.
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As you can see, this appealing class for all ages does cover all 15 Traits for Success.
Thus, we strongly suggest a curriculum on "How to Talk with Anyone" , not just for high school, but for all ages.
